Monthly Archives: August 2010

Modesty, kids and humility

Liu Qingyun was quite a hit with households across south-east asia in comedies from the 90s. As a well-known Hong Kong actor, he takes frequent roles in movies, though I haven’t been following the Asian movie industry for quite a while, hence I wouldn’t be able to tell you what exactly he’s been up to recently.

So… I was having dinner with the family in a small tucked away Japanese restaurant tonight in Sai Kung, Hong Kong, and Mr Liu was sitting at a table across us with his cronies. It wasn’t unusual to see celebrities as many live around Sai Kung, so it really wasn’t cool to stare. Their table was less rowdy than we expected, presumably they were on good public behaviour. A couple with their young son was leaving, and wanted to meet and greet Liu, who modestly and warmly reciprocated. The father tried to make the young son say a fond farewell, but in the guileless innocence only a young boy can pull off, his high voice rang clearly through the restaurant, “But I DON’T KNOW this guy!!”

There is nothing like having a child bring one back to earth.

It’s ok, Mr Liu, we Gen X-ers still love you, even if the i-Gen kiddos don’t know you.


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How To Be Alone

A friend of mine sent me this video and I thought it was so lovely I’d like to share it with you all. 🙂

If you are at first lonely, be patient. If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were you were not okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find its fine to be alone once you’re embracing it. We can start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library, where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books, your not suppose to talk much anyway so its safe there. There is also the gym, if your shy, you can hang out with yourself and mirrors, you can put headphones in. There’s public transportation, we all gotta go places. And there’s prayer and mediation, no one will think less if your hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation. Start simple. Things you may have previously avoided based on avoid being principles. The lunch counter, where you will be surrounded by “chow downers”, employees who only have an hour and their spouse work across town, and they, like you, will be alone. Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone. When you are comfortable with “eat lunch and run”, take yourself out to dinner to a restaurant with linen and silver wear. You’re no less an intriguing a person when you are eating solo desert and cleaning the whip cream from the dish with your finger. In fact, some people at full tables will wish they were where you were. Go to the movies. Where it’s dark and soothing, alone in your seat amidst fleeting community. And then take yourself out dancing, to a club where no one knows you, stand on the outside of the floor until the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no ones watching because they are probably not. And if they are, assume it is with best human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely move to beats, after-all, is gorgeous and affecting. Dance till you’re sweating. And beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things. Down your back, like a book of blessings. Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you. Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, they are always statues to talk to, and benches made for sitting gives strangers a shared existence if only for a minute, these moments can be so uplifting and the conversation you get in by sitting alone on benches, might of never happened had you not been there by yourself. – Tanya Davis

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